What ‘Dying for Sex’ taught me about pleasure, healing, and the power of hypnosis.

A friend recently recommended the television series Dying for Sex, on Hulu, to me. He knew a bit about the hypnotherapy work I do with clients who have sexual dysfunction, and he thought I would appreciate it. It was, in fact, an amazing series, and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. 

It’s based on the true story of a woman diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer who makes a bold, heart-wrenching decision: she leaves her marriage. Why? Because she has never had an orgasm with another person, including her husband, and she wants to experience that before she dies.

Let that sink in.

In the face of her mortality, she realized that the one thing she longed for - and never allowed herself to fully claim - was the experience of pleasure. Not just physical, but emotional and spiritual: the aliveness of being deeply connected to her own body, and to someone else, in a real, intimate way. To feel one of life’s peak pleasures, in the face of death.

This wasn’t about chasing thrills.
It was about coming home to herself before it was too late. One could argue it was a sacred journey for her.

Why This Hits So Deeply

This story struck a chord with me — not only because it’s so moving, but because it mirrors what I hear from so many women in my practice.

They may not be facing terminal illness, but they are facing the quiet ache of living disconnected from their own sensuality. They’ve never had an orgasm with a partner. Or they fake it. Or they feel shame. Or numbness. Or they’ve given up entirely. Or they don’t even know what brings them pleasure.

And behind it all is this silent question:
“Is there something wrong with me?” 

The answer is no.
There is nothing wrong with you.
But there may be old shame, trauma, or conditioning that’s blocking your ability to fully feel, connect, and surrender.

And it’s one thing to know you want to make a change, but to not know the HOW… this can be so frustrating! And hence her journey, in the series. 

And this is exactly why my hypnosis program can be so powerful. 

This is the work I do with clients - to guide them in their ‘how.’ And hynosis is such a powerful tool for this purpose!

The Subconscious Holds the Keys

So many of our patterns around intimacy — including fear, guilt, anxiety, or emotional shutdown — don’t live in the conscious mind. They live in the subconscious mind.

You may want to relax with a partner, but your body tenses up and you feel anxious.
You may want to feel desire, but nothing lights up inside.
You may want to be present, but you find yourself disconnecting, going into your negative thoughts, or fantasizing about someone else just to get there.

Hypnosis helps you gently access the subconscious — the part of your mind that’s running the show — and begins rewriting those outdated patterns with compassion and curiosity. In my programs, I also utilize many somatic tools that reconnect you to your body, to awaken your ‘sense’-uality, to help you feel more grounded and safe in your own skin.

It’s not about “fixing” you.
It’s about reclaiming you.

You Don’t Have to Be Dying to Want More

You are not selfish for wanting more from your intimate life.

You are not broken if you haven’t figured this out yet.

You are not alone in your desire to feel alive, safe, and free in your body.

This work - the journey back to your pleasure, your connection, your power - is sacred. And you don’t have to walk it alone.

Ready to Explore What’s Possible?

If something stirred in you as you read this, I invite you to take the next step.
You don’t need all the answers. You don’t need to know how to “fix” it. You just need a willingness to be curious about what’s possible for you.

If you’re ready to take that next step, book a free consult with me here!
Let’s talk about where you’re at, what you want, and how hypnosis can gently guide you there.

You deserve to experience intimacy that feels real, pleasure that feels safe, and a relationship with your body that’s built on trust - not shame.

I’m here when you’re ready to begin!